My worship group is Living Earth, an open circle of neo-Pagans and open to everyone. Joining is unnecessary, but if you are interested in hearing about our very active community all you'd have to do is join at meetup.com/livingearth. Information about the group is at that meetup website and also at our main website www.livingearthcolorado.org.
1) I first need to meet and speak with you both before confirming that I will do your ceremony. Not all couples that come to me do I end up agreeing to perform their ceremony; I may not be the best fit for them and I take it upon myself as a very weighty responsibility not to lead couples through a ceremony to make vows they do not understand or clearly are not ready to make. I have been performing weddings since 1998 and in that time, not a single couple has divorced. And I keep in touch with my couples!
I do interfaith ceremonies quite frequently and I myself am in an interfaith marriage of 10 years, together for 12 years, and we have three beautiful children together.
Most ceremonies I officiate have guests that come from a wide variety of religious paths. Sometimes that is a point of friction in families and some families are very open to the differences. Regardless of the situation I pride myself on being able to weave a ceremony that makes everyone feel comfortable and focused on your union. I once had a baptist minister whose daughter chose me as her officiant enter the ceremony feeling very aggressive and uncomfortable. After the ceremony he told me that it was the most beautiful wedding he'd ever seen.
All my ceremonies are custom-crafted based on what the bride and groom desire and what I learn about the couple through our meetings. You can have as much input as you want. Most couples don't even realize how many choices they have and they are eager to hear about choices, alternatives, and unique ideas, and have guidance about what types of ritual elements or logistics work well. I urge all couples to make sure I know what is important that their ceremony includes, and I'll find a way to weave it all together seamlessly.
We usually meet once or twice more before the wedding and communicate by email or phone periodically to plan the ceremony and keep in touch.